Two red flags: First flag: Has he ever held a job other than for his parents? You mentioned that he went to college and lost interest. Then he "worked five years for his parents." Has he ever been out there, pounding the streets, competing with all the regular Joe's looking for honest work? Or, has mommy and daddy footed the bills and supported his lifestyle and drinking habits?

Second flag: The drinking. No motivation, no ethics, no pride, no job, lots of drinking. Does this sound promising to you? Exactly what is it that is keeping you interested in this fellow? Let's imagine for a moment that it's ten years down the road and you have two children running around while holding down a full-time job and he still hasn't figured out the bus routes and still hasn't found a job. Does this look like something that you are interested in pursuing? Oh, I forgot to mention that now he starts drinking earlier in the day these days and by 1pm, he's asleep in his easy chair and forgot to do the dishes and feed the kids and do the laundry and shop for dinner. When you get home, you have to tend to all of that. Now do you think you are being unreasonable?