How does that work for you? I mean, what is the process when this happens?
Is this something you are checking out with the person you think you have upset? Or is the person being upset something you decide is true in your mind/thinking?

Fear of another's anger being directed at us can take an interesting course.

Since we can't know what another is thinking or feeling unless they use their own words to describe their thoughts and feelings, we can't know if they are or are not angry. Thinking we can know without them telling us is magical thinking.
Since we can't know what we don't know, since we can't possibly know what another person is thinking or feeling (just as they can't know what we are thinking or feeling) without words, then we are free to let go the worry Because the worry is an attempt to know what we can't know, to control what we can't control.