I was reading about this book today in the US World Report. It says so many things I have found to be true in relationships with women and mother and daughter etc and struggling with my whole life.
One thing it says my husband has tried to say so often. It says that Women are backhanded because they haven't been taught its OK to be angry.
Men can be angry but when a women is she needs Therapy.
It quotes another women who says that girls learn to curb and recast them selves to please others. She has to not be herself if she wants other people to value her and include her.
One teen says if I were to say what I was feeling and thinking no one would want to be with me.
My voice would be too loud.
I have struggled many years with being my self I am neither a Queen Bee or a Banker as the article points out women become. Both use people.
Often people think my natural voice is loud. My husband is always saying what as if I whisper.
Just recently I stood in the front of a line at a desk.
Always the same person working behind desk. A man.
I have stood in same line before and always feel like I am often treated lower than others in the same line and I have shrugged it off .
The last time I stood in line I was the first one and waited to be waited on or served and two men were behind me. I did not get a change to say a thing I was treated like I was not there the men were first served .
I spoke up and said hey I was here first and the man said to me that he does not like to wait on people who shout at him.
I was not shouting and did not say a thing up till then.
I now find out by a friend this man has mental illness,anxiety disorder and is being treated for it by medication.We live in a rural small town type place every one knows every ones business.
So I now feel I will just have to endure his treatment to me when I need his service. So not to give him any more anxiety.
I am a natural Yankee women!
Not always quiet like this mans wife, she is always very thin , always dressed in heels and a cute little dress, forever blond and a face of made up she is
Flawless......
I like her.
She is beautiful but quiet does not speak much and instead of eating lunch she buys pretty dress's on her lunch hour .
I see her out shopping.
I have never seen her in slacks. She dress's for work and play.
She is a true southern women every thing matches to a tee.
I never knew there were so many shades of pink and they had to match perfectly.
She rarely ever smiles, I have never heard her laugh, she often has a headache.
I do not think she is very happy but she sure is pretty.
I quess he likes her kind. I am too messy for a women.
My husband says he thinks maybe he wants to get me up set and likes it when I do because I show some real emointion.
The other night.
I was telling my husband a few things I was up set about . Things I would like done or changed really letting my feelings loose and he said it was Ok to air my feelings about these things and he must of found it a turn on because we found ourselves in each others arms laughing our heads off in bed having a wonderful time.
Of course later I felt bad for the things I said and told him I was sorry. But at least he knows how I feel.
Morning8glory Not Southern bred.