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Originally Posted by theotterone
My youngest daughter (Crash) is absolutely unmanageable today! Her sister got to go spend the night with their cousin (who is almost a year younger than our oldest). Because of the age differences, Crash is staying home. Personally, I don't think it's fair, but it wasn't my call. I don't think we can have Bug go without Crash anymore, but I worry how Crash would behave being the "third wheel" or "odd man out". She is being evaluated on Oct 6, and of the two girls I think she is the one who will need medication, but I am not the doctor either. And it's not that I am going "right to meds" with her, but even if I can get her calmed down, her dad is already mad and tends to stir the pot and get her upset again...I just can't seem to keep the peace here. I understand that her refusing to do as asked and throwing a tantrum (with the crying and screaming) upsets HIM, but what the heck? I am just at a loss of what to do? Home is always great tension!
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I have a now 10 year daughter who had had serious anger issues since she was 1y. From birth to 5 she would not let people hug her with out attacing them I could not bath her or brush her hair or feed her or dress her with getting a new bruise or scratch or injury of some kind. Once she started school and we took agreesive steps to reinforce good behaviour as postive behaviour she started to let people hug her but it had to bear hugs strong tight hugs or shed become aggressive. She was put on medication around begining of 2008 we had tryed getting Dr's to help her and us since she was baby but kept getting told she grow out of it. She a phycoogist for 2 years before being put on med's by a phychiatrist. I'm glad the meds have clamed her down but she still a chanlaging child and I wish I could have gotten a breakthrew with out resorting to med's and I hope to give her the tools to cope with life with out meds in the future. Shes back seeing a phycologist who uses play therapy. My daughter does not even let you reward her for good behaviour she sabortage her reward time and or her reward or just literally throws it back at you. The only thing that has any calming effect has been pooh bear item's.
I know what its like to have a resistant child and if your told she see needs medication I do think some children's brains are just so hyped up or full or anxiety or thoughts that thay need the medication to bring there brain back to normal so the information we are trying to teach them sinks in. try throwing a ball threw a fast spining wind mill it's likly to bouch off but slow the wind mill down and its likly to do what you want. I was 100% against medication till my daughter started smashing windows with bear feet and pulling her own hair causeing her to get bald spots. I still wish I could take her off the medication but it would like punishing her. She doing so much better if she never learnt that she could be good we'd still have physical violance happening every day she way to strong for me these days.
As a parent you know your child the best dont let anyone convince you otherwise.