Families resist change. If you try to change, even to do something in your best interest that will most likely benefit them too in the long run, someone is going to call you bad, selfish, or crazy. That's typical of dysfunctional families and how they stay stuck in the same patterns. If you expect it, you can plan for it and not let it limit you. Get support on your side - a friend, a therapist, a teacher or advisor, etc. Have someone you can go to when your family tells you that you have to keep being stuck and you can't change, who will remind you that you really can. Because you can do what you want to do, and you deserve to take control and live the life that you want to live.