I was fine, have felt okay about all of the loss and my questions, did I do enough? Today I took my friend up to her family grave site which is near where my daughter is buried so I stopped with more perenniels. No one has cared for the grave, ny flowers and marble container for the flowers is gone and I feel awful. NO ONE HAS BEEN THERE. Her birth mom made it abundantly clear to me that that was their space and this was their child and I did a lot of healing over the past year on this. Till today. She is there all alone. I wanted to find puple for her, she loved purple. I need to develop a plan so my flowers don't get mowed over and will be there in the spring summer and fall.