Talking directly to him would be the approach I'd take. Just every time I try talking to him about anything that is important, he says he doesn't want to talk. Or he says he is busy and can't talk now. Or if I push it, he strikes out in anger and then everyone is upset. His dad said he'd talk to him, but I think his dad doesn't know how or he avoids it or I just don't know what his dad's deal is.

Thing is, he is 29. He is not responsible whatsoever. His responsibilities here to are pay utilities. Which runs and this may be a high figure $350 a month. He doesn't work or even try to find any kind of job. He does fix computers and earns enough to pay the utilities. Just he doesn't pay them until they come knocking at the door to turn off the internet, water or electric. He does absolutely nothing around the house. He won't even take out the trash......He sleeps a lot. Sometimes he is up all night on his computer. I dunno.. He just doesn't do anything. Absolutely nothing.

Anyway, something is wrong. I just don't know what. So I have to be careful how I approach him. I don't know what else to say without writing a book. Other than I have tried every which way, firmly, gently, hints, and out of frustration said everything a parent should never say, just to try to get him to pay utilities each month. He resists every time. So I don't know how I could get him to see a T.