My experience with this has been that T's often do tell us we should get angry at them but then they really can't handle it. I am speaking from experience here. My T had a hard time with it on a few ocassions.

I am sorry she missed an opportunity to give you a different experience in the wake of uncomfortable feelings for her. I'd ask for more specifics on why working on the PTSD is something you aren't ready for. I suspect that if you have PTSD then you've been through hell and back...your ready but the question is...is she?