my younger peeps have their own set of "stuff" i make sure that at christmas or birthday they get something (okay 1 something not like a million) this way everybody is happy.

1 night a week they get to pick dinner...it ain't pretty and it sure ain't nutritious but hey it ain't going to kill me.

it's funny because my t originally said no toys or anything in therapy...she was willing to read to the peepsters but that was about it. this past summer when the youngest of them came out with really primal memories he brought his toy car, laid down on the sofa and played away. didn't ask just did it. she came over and sat with him and it was okay. he even let her play with the car, which she did.

she was very firm in the beginning about no floor sitting, no touch, etc...but we are her first did patient and the rules seem to have evolved. she says she realizes that touch is very essential to our healing. plus as far as the floor and stuff...sometimes it just works out that way in a flashback...once she even came and sat under her desk with us . normally she is in her chair, me on the couch..unless something triggers a flashback then she moves to the couch.

she's more than willing to work with the peeps. every birthday & christmas they get a small gift which is very cool. and they always get her something..which may or may not be cool (no one ever asked) but we do it anyway.

i think you go thru a period where the younger kids want to stay out all the time...maybe enjoying the freedom they never had before...and the safety...eventually (with me anyway) it levels out. the peeps are always there...its funny when there is talk of integration i say i never want to lose them because it is refreshing to view the world from that of a innocent and happy 5 yr old...a nice change from that of a sometimes jaded 51 yr old.