That can be OK, maybe not in all situations (you gave a good example and I certainly don't doubt anyone's experience), but I don't think it's essential that we be emotional each time we talk about our experiences. If we're not feeling a particular emotion at the time we talk to T about it, we can still talk about it and how we felt the day or week before, or whenever. One can still say something like, "last week when you didn't respond to my email, I felt ignored and like I didn't matter to you. I wonder why you didn't email me back?" And that very unemotional statement can lead to a really good discussion and a new understanding/resolution. There have also been times that I felt rather unemotional about something that happened in the past, but once I started talking about it in session, the feelings came back (sometimes much to my chagrin, as I had planned to have an unemotional discussion!). Sometimes I like to get a little distance from something, so I can know how I really feel. I am not always good at spotting immediately how I feel about something.