I could follow. I am sorry this happened. What I got from the story was that this man (ex-t) was afraid because he was feeling things he felt he shouldnt. #1 being your therapist and #2 being married (whichever order that should be in!). Im glad you left before the relationship went any further, but it might not have as he seems to have unleashed his fear and anger on you. The beauty of this story is what you did with this situation. You sought out another t and did trauma work on your relationship with him.

Interesting that you keep running into him.....I have to say, that when things like that happen to me, I also wonder, "can this be a coincidence, too???"

I have posted about this before, but not in a long time. I had a relationship with my t of 10 yrs a long time ago. It was intermittent and I wasnt married. But it did keep me stuck and prevented me from working on issues I really could have been delving into with a better t. He was never mean and did help me a lot with another issue. The downside of doing this was that I tried to please him a lot instead of work on me. But I was on and off involved in other relationships and then he got married. I was relieved but wondered why he never wanted to marry me. The truth was, I didnt want to get married then anyway.

One question- what did you google by his name? The new T? Im also glad you didnt see him with the new T. I cant imagine that he would have been truthful and it might have been more traumatizing for you.....

Im so sorry for all of this, Exotic