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Originally Posted by sw628
T also something about being too open with boundaries b/c she cares about me so much.
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The picture I get is that she has some sort of attachment to you for reasons having more to do with her own history than with you. Instead of working through it (in supervision or otherwise) so that it won't get in the way of therapy, she's trying to justify it to you. She might as well be saying, "I'm not doing very good therapy with you but it's OK because I care so much."
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Because of the incident she has asked me to not email her anymore and will soon be taking away our mini phone session on Thursdays.... I feel as if she is putting me under some sort of punishment. I've acted out, so she is taking away my privileges.
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I'm not surprised you feel that way. She sounds like the one who's acting out, not you. Under color of reestablishing good boundaries, she seems to be practicing a corrupt form of "behavior therapy" with you, training you not to tell her anything she doesn't want to hear.
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My question is if I have to worry about hurting T's feelings, how will I ever be able to get this anger out of me?
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That sounds to me like a perfectly valid question. My answer would be, most likely with a more secure and capable therapist.
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T knows that I am a very hypersensitive person and I pick up on feelings and emotions very easily.. even if a person says nothing...
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I'd think twice before calling your sensitivity a problem that you need to be cured of rather than, say, a talent to be cultivated. If your T doesn't want you notice when she's feeling off balance and out of her depth, your sensitivity may well be posing a bigger problem for her than for you.
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I wonder if T will greet me at the door or say hello when I come in next Tuesday? it's a shame that i have to wonder about this.
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I'd do more than wonder -- I'd not only prepare, pretty much the way you're doing here, but if she didn't I'd point it out and ask her about it.
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And that's only if I were you. If I were me, I'd be more likely to ask if she wanted to trade places for part of the session, perhaps in exchange for a sharply reduced fee. 