Hello JerryMichelle,

First of all, Grats on the physical workout. I know for myself that
doing workouts on a regular basis takes a lot of discipline, espescially
when its hard due to low stamina or body weight. Not to mention going
to a public work out gym when feeling insecure about yourself.
VERY nice job, a definite A+!! (you're my role model now)

Secondly, I agree with Shangrala's comment. A partner should not
comment negativly on his/hers partners looks, it shouldn't even matter.
Personally, love is in the heart and that is where ones beauty is. Sure,
ones looks can play a significant role as to someones feelings toward
another, but it certainly isn't something to base a relationship on.
By the end of the day, there is nothing better then to be home with
your best buddy in the world and feel accepted, safe and comfortable.

Everybody looks different and everyone has different preferences.
Everybody changes over the years, everybody has "flaws" if you want to
view them as such but also, everyone has qualities which are far more
important and constructive to comment on. After all, its those qualities
that make people feel comfortable around each other and got them
together in the first place (i hope).

Of course, how one feels about themselves toward their partner is very
important and the partner can support them in those insecurities. I feel it is
a partners job to take away those insecurities and support them in feeling
better about themselves when needed. Criticism when already insecure
does not help very much, it will only worsen ones already excisting
insecurities. I think it is selfish and insensitive to criticize on the looks
of your partner.

As for the financial part.
Again, I think it is selfish and insensitive to criticize on a partners looks,
ESPESCIALLY when not offering constructive idea's or help, not to mention
to then take finances as priority. To first criticize on ones looks and then
take away the means of doing something about them is just plain wrong.
Then just don't say anything at all.

Sure, finances are important but happyness and contentness is far more
important and if they truly love each other and care for each other and
value each others well being and being happy together then spending
money on ones physical AND mental well being I'd say is well worth
the investment.

JerryMichelle, BRAVO for looking for self improvement and to feel
comfortable about YOURSELF. Just make sure you do it for the right
reasons. Try not to answer to your partners preferences too much,
because no matter how admirable, a few years from now, It's possible
he'll find other "flaws" to criticize including the money spent. You'll be
feeling insecure about yourself still and possibly guilty for trying to do
something about it for your partners sake. Chances of succes would
depend on your partner and seeing how he commented on the finances
already, do not put too much hope in his approval. Instead, look for
own approval and the goals you intend to reach for yourself.
Then you are almost garanteed to find succes, You wont feel
insecure about how you look physically and you wont regret
the investment.

Stick with yourself, you certainly are worth it!
I admire your courage and have nothing but respect
for your choice in this matter.

Already your qualities are showing and if I was your partner
you would receive nothing but glory and approval.

Keep it up!!