Everyone here posted exactly what I would have said, so I wont repeat.

Your confusion may come from the same misconception that I had when I was with/leaving desk-t......this is NOT a theraputic relationship. There nis a large part of this relationship that seems to serve her needs. She is trying to conduct therapy the way she knows how and considers it good if she does what she does out of caring. HER caring. And the caring she seems to be expecting from you. This is not theraputic. We all could get that from the dysfunctional people that have been in our lives.

Personally, and it may be so for you, this behavior adds fuel to the fire. It brings up all sorts of negative feelings I already have about myself and my abilities. When I left dt, I realized that (in therapy with ftt) that she reinforced my fears and caused me to withdraw from my feelings in subtle ways.

And I would never for a second say that dt didnt "care" about me. I also had days when I left therapy on top of the world. I realized it isnt reason enough to stay in therapy with her, because those "great" sessions were punctuated by exchanges just like the ones you are describing here. Exactly. Can she really help me if I have to stay within the limits of what she can comfortably hear? Dt would cut me off mid-sentence, make a joke, "will that paper burn my hand if I touch it?" (the paper where I wrote things I wanted to say to her) and abruptly, with a BIG smile, change the subject. As if I was a small child. I couldnt smile back at her, that happened a lot.