Just a thought that occured to me about your T: You said that you have felt that your cup runneth over after seeing your t, so it sounds like you have felt really cared about. Perhaps she is too emotionally invested and therefore was hurt by your email and took it personally. It reminds me of the parent/child relationship where it is difficult to separate your own emotions when your child expresses anger towards you. As a parent, I have become very upset and even cried because of the way my teenagers sometimes went off on me in anger. It hurts more when you are close to the situation and feel responsible for the person, or child. Maybe she suddenly realized this and felt the need to tighten up the boundaries for both of your sakes.

While I think your T handled the situation very poorly, I think it's important to keep in mind that they are human and sometimes have impaired judgement in specific situations. I've been in therapy for 22 yrs and over the course of those years between two differnt Ts, I can say there have been many ruptures and situations where my T made a mistake and acted inappropriately (nothing unethical). Recently I got angry with my T because she did something and I confronted her about it. She was defensive at the time and I was very upset so we got no where until we both had some time to think it over and the next session I was able to say how I felt about what she did and she was able to see that it was wrong and apologized.

The question is whether you can get past this rupture and work through it so that you can continue therapy with her. You will have to decide, and it's usually never cut and dry. And we only hear one side of the story so that is why it's important for you to decide what is the right thing for you.