Well, I have always wanted to try mrriage counseling but he don't want anyone even a doctor knowing his business so intimately like that. He may be narssisitic. Actually that makes alot of sense. When he's having a flare up or something related to his Crohn's I help him as best as I can because I know he hurts. But when I have a bad moment in the day he gets aggravated with me. He thinks (I think he thinks) that if I have panic attacks all the time, then I should be "used" to them and deal with it without freaking out. He says things like "I have Crohn's I have a real problem. Your's is imaginary deal with it" Things like that. It pisses me off and makes me feel so alone here. And unsafe. Not because he hits me or anyhthing but because I am scared all the time because of past truamas so I worry and fear alot and to know that no one will calm my fears or be there for me makes me feel unsafe. Oh Timeisback he's 31. Is that old enough to be set in your ways?