I have been withholding something from my therapist and he has realized it for the past several months. I told him that I had never discussed it with anyone and that I didn't think that I would ever discuss it with him. He's reminded me several times about the fact that I was holding something back from him and always said that whenever I felt ready he wanted us to talk about it.

Well, I've never felt ready to talk about it; but yesterday he became more insistant with me and got me to disclose it to him. I was miserable telling him about it, and I still am. He also expressed surprise about the subject and said something that makes me feel as if he now thinks I was never as strong a person as he had thought. He also wants to discuss it next week because it is something major, but I don't want to talk about it anymore. I realize that it's his job to get me to open up, but why couldn't he have given me more time on this one subject?

As if this wasn't already bad enough, he wants me to bring my husband into the discussion at some point in the future, which I definitely don't want to do.

Should I flatly refuse to talk to him about the subject? We have a great relationship and I don't want another therapist, but I really hate that he wants to focus on this subject that I've held to myself for more than 25 years.

Any suggestions?

Julie