i didn't think you pursued her for the sex. what i meant is it would just be that much harder for her to break up because she loves you and slept with you. if she were just some random chick you met (like *ehem* volleyball girl), tried dating, slept with, and it didn't work out it wouldn't be a huge deal. regrettable, but certainly not breaking anyone's heart.

i think it's great that you're going to try to talk with her. i hope you guys can figure things out. you know, maybe you have her on a bit of a pedestal as well since you feel like you can't really talk to her as openly. i mean, of course there will be some things you won't talk about with her if you guys date, just like you wouldn't with anyone else you'd date, but maybe you think she is kind of perfect too and can't show her any of your weaknesses? i don't know, just a thought. i hope it goes well. my guy friend from college really hurt me and i didn't talk to him for a year. i hadn't thought of that in a really long time. poor guy, talk about getting the silent treatment, lol. we're still friends over 20 years later though.