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Originally Posted by lynn09
Sorry you're having a tough go of it (((((SUNNY))))). Speaking from my own personal experience, I realized that it was that emotional child within who was afraid and overwhelmed at having to deal with adult matters. Being a certain chronological age meant handling things as an emotional adult, but I wasn't in so many ways, and it was my emotional child who felt inadequate and unprepared for such things. It does take time, SUNNY, but with work and support from good people, that emotional child can mature and catch up to the chronologically adult you. The most important thing I had to learn was how to make the emotional child feel "safe" during the process - had to learn how to provide that child with the protection she never received from those who were supposed to protect her, but used their power to abuse her instead. You have to help that emotional child understand that she now has the power to protect herself and doesn't have to be afraid anymore - and we'll all be here to help support you and make you both feel safe in the process.
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Lynn, yesterday I was going to pull up this post and say what a great post that it was but I didn't and I just thanked you. This is an excellent post!
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Originally Posted by lynn09
Raising your emotional child into a mature emotional adult is a process - there's no way to map out the exact steps that you are going to have to take beforehand - it's the process of self-discovery and self-determination that was never allowed to occur naturally - so each issue identified and resolved helps to identify other issues and the necessary next steps.
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And so is this one!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........
I'm an ISFJ
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