Mini, my darling....... Is there a theme going on here about people who get things without working for it???? You work and work and work and trudge on in therapy and in your family (you are the one taking care of everyone else's kids) and then you see people who aren't doing any work and it makes you mad..........????? You had a lot of terrible things happen to you too but you pull it together anyway, do the work and don't fall a part - and they don't........... I also remember your mom playing favorites. Your brothers were treated better.