Are you communicating well in your sessions? When the T doesn't understand what is going on with us, the best we can do is try to explain better and give feedback. "No, that's not what I mean. What I mean is...." Then you give your explanation again. Then the T should restate what you said so that you can see if they understood this time. Hopefully, they are closer in understanding, but if they still don't completely understand, you can say, "no, that's still not quite it, what I mean is..." And keep doing this cycle until they really understand. I have been through this cycle sometimes 4 times in a row with my T and when he finally gets it, it is so great! We both feel a little moment of triumph and are so glad we stuck with it. Other times, he does get immediately what I mean, and it is great to feel he is on the same wavelength, but sometimes that doesn't happen at every session, and when it doesn't, we have to use our communication skills even more.