Going to start basic here. Because I can't gather my thoughts to write anything more than basic. so here goes....

Ok.. if you think someone in your family or a friend is depressed, then what are some of the things about them that makes you think they are depressed? What is that person doing or how are they acting to make you think they are depressed? Just what exactly about them gives you the impression they could be depressed? How does a person "feel" when they are depressed?

I am asking these questions because I am concerned about my son. I think I may also have depression issues. Someone once told me that I can't take care of anyone else, if I don't take care of myself first. So to be brave am asking these questions for my son and for myself. Time for me to get real! Just am confused

I don't know if this is possible. But here goes.. I am wondering if he is mirroring my "issues" back to me. Kind of like transference. Ok, I have tons of issues I put on the back burner. I am not living a fulfilled life. But then is anyone? I am kind of existing. But then I am doing things to keep myself busy as to not feel my feelings or deal with my issues. I am prob the problem here too. Maybe because I am "inside" a mess, he somehow reads those vibes, and thinking he has unresolved issues, that we are somehow feeding each other's depression>? Could this be possible? Just thinking out loud and searching.