You say you have been married ten years or online with your friend ten years? I would say that there is something missing in your relationship with your husband. I started innocently talking on the internet once with a close friend and we became closer friends--still not breaking the marriage bond but the flirtations did increase quite a bit. is that cheating? Some say yes. I said no. This flirtation did increase during hypomanic periods and yes it was confusing! good luck to you.