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Originally Posted by Abby
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Thankyou mum2four for taking the time to write such a thoughtful post. With therapy i have been making more time to focus on how i feel and less on other peoples expectations, but i've not yet been convinced how everyone knowing my depressing thoughts would be beneficial. I like the idea of putting up things that create more positive feelings. I shall try and set my mind to recognise anything that makes me smile in the day! In regards to using better words, that is something that scares me a lot because i feel those words 'i will, i can' etc simply imply 'i must'. The idea of trying to change my thoughts conjures up really horrid feelings of having to deny my feelings and makes them better. I know that this is not what you suggested, but it still scares me a lot. Take care.
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I know exactly what you mean when I first decided to try to change my words I would have obbsessive intrusive thoughts that would agrue with me about how it was society expection and it not some I was born to be good at why bother trying and the things that use to come to mind when I tryed to fight threw to be more positive was unbeleaiveable and if did express them to people I knew they would look at me as if I was seriously insane and or tell me that I was insane and then I would become really confused cause it felt so real to me at the time what I thinking felt like the truth from my perpective but when I looked at threw other people perspective I could see where they were comeing from and understood but could not accept it as so.... its just matter of starting with one word and maybe even one area baby steps as thay say ......I still have plenty of days where my negative words have more control over me than I have over them but I get back to posiitve faster and more sincerly than in the past.