There definitely is discrimination against women, but it is up to us to change this. I am in a very male-oriented profession and I am younger than most of the people I deal with (and actually look even younger than I am). However, I almost always get the respect I deserve. I am an attorney, however, I refuse to fit into any model of what I should look or act like. I am small and thin and sometimes where suits, but sometimes where fun, funky clothes. My clients and other attorneys respect me for the work I do and because I will not tolerate it if I am not getting their respect. Inside I have many self doubts, but I never let this come across. As a woman, I also have compassion, which is a definite advantage. I used to make less money than a comparable male in my profession, but I have changed that as well. I have to agree with Zen that things are changing and it is up to us to make sure we have power and equality. Don't let others ideas as to what you should be get you down. I imagine living in the south would be very difficult as they may be stuck in some of the old traditions which would make everything much harder. Be proud of who you are. So what if you are sloppy. At least you don't have headaches every day and you are able to smile!