For about a year I have gone out of my way to avoid being in the same room as my brother. I am sick and tired of having to be submissive towards him and asking for his approval. I have been stablized for 3 years now without a manic episode or severe depression. But still he analyzes my e-mails for anger...etc. And if there is a hint of anger or frustration I am accussed of being confrontational or trying to start an arguement. Having his belonging in my basement for many years along with some adult movies bothered me greatly. I assumed he would have picked up his things many years ago. When I set a boundary in my e-mail to him and told him that I would return the adult movies to him the next time we met...he told me to through out the movies and that I was being confrontational. I think it's pretty low and sad state of affairs when my brother thinks it's acceptable to leave his friend's adult movie collection at my home and then expect me to take responsiblity for disposing of them.