I think a lot, if not all, of us, attract certain types, whether they are good or bad for us. You seem to be saying that they type you attract is not good for you, in the way you like to be treated. Well, I'm not sure why this is, since I don't know you, but if you have correctly answered your own question, then it would seem that you need to work on strengthening your independence and reducing your insecurities. You can do this, by challenging yourself with exercise, a fairly demanding job, taking charge of your life until you are in a position that you don't need others. Then you should attract less dominating people. You seem to have good insight and to be willing to admit to your weaknesses. That is a big step. Caring About You - billieJ