interesting question!!! i've been thinking about this a lot & how to respond. given that i'm no expert when it comes to this, i hope no one reads my post and subsequently feels bad about how they do/want to express their anger.

No judgments from me! I don't know either.

ok. jmo, but i think feeling anger is a good thing, and expressing it is ok also, but that there are many ways to express anger and some are better than others. i don't like it when people rage and scream. maybe that's my own issue coming out, but i think i would be tempted to not put it down merely to that. i simply think there are better ways of working through anger than having to be that... aggressive?

I think the anger I feel is really deep sadness and grief. Maybe I just need a good cry instead? I have a cold right now and have lost most of my voice so I know I won't be able to yell. (maybe that is a good thing!) Maybe I should bring in my trumpet and blow the heck out of it. That used to feel good, such a great release! The whole block will hear me and my T will go deaf, but at least I would be able to release it.

having said that, i do swear quite a bit in therapy. i can feel anger and that is how i express it. not ideal, but better than more aggressive forms of acting out. i guess it depends on whom the anger is directed towards. if it is just someone i am talking about, then i can swear about that "dad is a bit of a bastard at times" and that is enough to diffuse things for me. i find it difficult to express anger towards pdoc or T, though. i tend to shut down and just sit there feeling it, without talking. i dont trust myself to be rational during those moments, and i dont want to say something that isn't fair or warranted.