I have know her for a couple years and I think you have part of both right. She is the type who doesn't mind stepping on other people to get to the top and she also is a vengeful type of person. She doesn't seem to be that way with me usually, but can see some of that changing. Much of the credit and blame I was talking about was to and from me. I guess that is what hurts the most. I don't know why I would think to be different, but you have to live and learn. I guess I just need to learn to take her for what she is and go on??? Thank you so much for your advise a_long_ways!!