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lynn P. · Nov 19, 2009, 12:32 PM

Thank you for sharing your feeling with us. I can feel you're hurting and I wish I knew the perfect thing to say. I hear that you're feeling disillusioned with your life as it stands right now - I also feel you're upset with a particular person.

I can only speak from experience, what helps me when I'm faced with difficult life challenges. I ask myself what are the resonable changes I can make to improve my situation. If I can't improve it, I just accept it for the time being and make the best of it. I try to remember that it could be worse and there are people who have even more difficult challenges than me. I often use this lady I saw on Oprah last year as an example. This woman contracted the flesh eating desease after the birth of her 2nd child - they had to amputate all 4 limbs and remove her colon. Doctors were amazed at her recovery and attitude that she was able to have a zest for life. Another woman that impressed me, was the woman who got attacked by a chimp - you can read about her story in the current events section - by JerryMichele - I have to warn you though it's very graphic.

As you may aleady know I have a very complicated marital situation and sometimes I feel trapped, but I have to stay put because of the economy. So for now I take it day by day and try to appreciate that it could be worse for me. I think the serenity prayers sums it up well.

I think the first thing you should do, is take very good care of you. This means eat well and exercise - make yourself as strong as you can. We're all getting older and we need to use it or lose it. I sense you're a survivor but even survivors feels down and need a hand or push. Once you're taking care of yourself - ask yourself what can you change to make your life circumstances better and what can you accept?? Come up with some short and longterm goals.

We all have our battles, some more than others. Even in the depths of despair it helps to ask ourselves - what are we grateful for and could it be worse. I hope this helps in some way Notz - I know you wern't expecting more than a hug - but I wanted to offer more. I wish you peace and hope you find what you're looking for friend.