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Originally Posted by farmergirl
My children have lived with a depressed mother and father their whole lives (bipolar depression actually). My husband and I have been in therapy for several years. Our therapist kept asking about how the kids were doing. He says, it is pretty inevitable that children who are exposed long-term to parents with mental illness will have some sort of issues surrounding that experience. He isn't saying its our fault. It just is what it is.
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I wish my T and my kids T's did not always tell me that my kids are the way they are because they must have seem it or felt it .....I been told kids ONLY copy what they see come on children are smart and they experiment with there own thoughts and have imagination that love to play tricks on them so why is when children get a mental illness is it automatic because thay saw it lids grow up really bad(NOT ILL) parent and seem to find there way in life...and if they try to use growing up as excuse for bad behaviour they get told that basicly that had a freedom to chooce. If children come up with good things that are in no way copied they say its due to imagination.....so some thing like genetics has play a HUGE part in why kids get mental illnesses. Children who cant perceive body lanuguage and seem unemotional and respond with failed effort to fit in and seem normal are often diagnoised as autisim and asperger.....I have to wonder if children can be born with there emotional recepter(lack of better word) turn down really low or off then its not a huge stretch to think that children can born with thoes same receptor turn up way to high.....I've always felt that I sence body language to easily and I respond extreamly, the exact oppersite to autisim and aspergers. My daughter has alway been the same even as a baby.......so while children may copy I think children who truly become mentally ill very young at like under 10y are more likly because of genetics....specially when the parants cope really well with there illnesses.....to people out side my family I never seemed to be depressed and or anxious and at home I'm able to cope far better than in public and around family (that dont live with me) and friends. My kids dont have my behaviours that I have now thay have the exact behaviours I had when I was there age......How can this be called coping that just crazy....I have never told my kids what i did as child nor has my mum but the funniest thing when I started telling them in a round about way NOT full details they started to open up and talk to me rather than become agressive.....the more thay talk the more they sound like the have the almost the exact thoughts producing the exact behaviour but far more extreamly.....This has to be genetics there no other explianation unless children are reading thoughts......How do children in 3rd world counties grow up and cope with life they more likly to be exposed to things that could make the depressed ect so there is absulotly another explanation but its SO MUCH easier to say it due to lack of parenting and or because thay coppied the behaviours....