But how can this be concidered the fault of a parent or child it like saying a parent of an autistic child could have prevent or given there child better skills or like saying a parent of a down syndrome child should have given the child better skills it takes a lot longer just the way it does for you with your mental illness......you have not given the child the mental illness nor have you not given them the coping skills your child has just got to try harder to cope and try harder to let you help them cope and this is not because of the parent....as an adult in therapy we get told getting over a mental illness takes time so there fore a child would have the same problem and then some as they have not got the knowlage or memorys of what being normal is........they would there fore more like not beable to find positives to over come the illness......its such a vicious circle that has got be hard on a child but it is no way because of the parant not parenting properly...