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Nov 20, 2009, 04:18 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
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I'm a little late in responding to your thread Mary and you may already know what I'm going to say. I saw a show on PBS once and the person was talking about relationships and how our past affects our present lives. I think you're very clever the way you recognize, you keep seeking approval from the wrong people. The guest speaker was talking about how growing up in dysfunctional families causes the adult person to sometimes subconsciously choose people, who are like the person who they had problems with(your mom) The reason this happens is your subconscious, is craving a solution and trying to force you to solve the weaknesses that formed from bad experiences you had growing up. That's why many people choose partners who are similar to one of their parents. Everytime you encounter a problem with this personality type - it rips off the scab and exposes your vulnerabilities. So the question is how can you heal yourself, so that you no longer seek out those kind of people. When you're finally healed, you will no longer need or care to associate with people like that. You're a smart lady who knows yourself well and I think you're well on your way to understanding what you need to heal. Best of luck Mary.
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Last edited by lynn P.; Nov 20, 2009 at 06:32 PM.
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