Hi Sundance,

I have a few warning bells ringing on this one. It feels like there is something that he wants, maybe life is not so good for him now and he is looking back.

This could be upsetting for him and for you, given the history that you have described.

If you feel strong and you definitely have someone with you......... do take care.

Good thoughts, Myzen

PS - In my experience, there are difficult relationships and easy relationships. I have made some efforts over the years with people who were obviously damaged, and all I ever got was a hard time, no matter how much I tried to empathise and help.

With easy relationships I had an easy time, and no trouble. It is almost as if there is a club of people who know that they are 'alright' and include other 'alright' people in their social group. But, they keep the difficult people at arms length. This makes life very lonely for the difficult people, and it may be that your friend is suffering this kind of rejection.

I know it sounds hard, but you can't be responsible for another persons unhappy past. A good counsellor or therapist is properly trained to deal with this stuff.