Hi gyguy...

Jmo, but I don't think you are being unreasonable, either.
Actually, it sounds to me like you are starting to set boundaries with her.
and in some ways, perhaps you are wanting something that just isn't going to happen.
It's healthy to make your needs and expectations known, but it does not seem like she is willing to accept them.

It may be of benefit to you to seek counseling to sort through your feelings, focus on what you need to do for yourself, and put those things into action.
You are a worthwhile human being, gyguy, and need to take good care of yourself.
Changes can be hard and scary, but they can also be the best things we can do for ourselves.

In Peace