Coconut, does your T actually help in any way to find alternative ways to cope that don't involve self-injury? If he doesn't, perhaps this is something you need to discuss with him. Or find another therapist who can help you with it, because sometimes T's don't know much about self injury and how to help their clients the best.

If he says he can't do anything about it, that for me raises BIG red flags about his ability to help as a therapist.

My previous Ts have all "reacted" to it in some way. None of them have ever asked to see the injuries, but I have been asked to agree to temporary contracts (which I am fine with) and have helped me to find other ways to cope.

Ultimately though, quitting self injury was mostly something I did myself, without therapeutic help.

He can't change your feelings, that IS right - but he can help you to change how you view self injury and figure out why you do it. Then help you find other ways to cope. You might not necessarily get tired of feeling this bad though -- I quit because I felt guilted into doing it by a friend, but then I relapsed and had to quit for myself.

What does this part mean exactly?? ??