It's not all hopeless! You're trying and that shows that you're willing to make this work. As jerrymichele said, you need to try saying "I" instead of "You". Try telling him "I feel ..... when this happens"

You're doing what you can and remember, you have lots of people around you, including me! And I have given you my email address so that you can email me anytime you need to and I'll answer asap.

I care, we all care, even your Husband cares deep down. You just need to bring that out of him, up to the surface. You CAN and WILL do this, please don't give up.

I you