My T has talked to me about finding other ways of SI that wont be so harmful or leave scars- like squeezing an ice cube in my fist for as long as possible or putting my forearms in a bowl of iced water until it hurts. Neither of things work for me, but at least I know he cares and is on my side, and is accepting of my coping mechanisms. He asks if it something I need to do at the moment in order to get through some of the things I am trying to deal with.

Like Christina, if I am particularly at risk, he emphasises the need for me to keep myself alive until next session otherwise he cant help me.

Of course t cant change the way you feel, but CAN help-that is his job!. He can be there to listen and help you find answers to what is keeping you feeling like the only option is to SI. Ts should come across this fairly routinly with patients, so I am surprised he doesnt sound like he is very supportive of you during this?