For me when I look back now I do realise that there were 'clues' but I think that I chose to ignore them rather than see what was happening. He was a little distant - not physcially just emotionally. We would talk more about work than anything else (when we used to talk about everything).

We are still communicating by txt and email and things are getting more confused. In the end I caught up with him on Saturday. I had seen a therapist the Thursday before and he really thinks that he can help what we are going thro. My other half has been battling for the past 2 months with confused feelings for me - feeling 'no love' but not wanting to accept that's what it was.. he doesn't understand how or why he is feeling this way it is just what it is.
I saw him on Saturday because we are getting our messages confused... both looking for 'hidden messages'... Me looking for love and him thinking that he's getting my hopes up again and not wanting to hurt me.
When I actually saw him and we managed to speak in person it wasn't really as bad as what we had thought. He was worried that I only wanted to be 'friends' in hope that we would get back together and he was worried that I wouldn't take any opportunities that came my way as I would continue to 'wait' for him. In the end I explained that no matter what the future held I did seriously want to be friends but that the boundaries were not clear... both agreed that it is going to take time but we are open to a future either together or apart.
My Therapist had told me that some men find it hard to move into the 'companionship' phase of love, that they can feel like it's just died when it reaches this stage... He said put more passion and fire into when you see him next.... So I did. We had a lovely 'no strings attached' afternoon. Probably not the best for me right now but it felt right... Both of us were worried that we were making a bad decision to sleep together but in the end his response was 'Just for the record that was NOT a bad idea'..
I guess what I am hoping is that it was the lack of passion that robbed the love between us. Now we are starting to actually find out things that we both would have liked to change but never did anything about it.

Long post and probably doesn't make much sense.... I just hope that no matter what happens it's the best thing for both of us (even tho' right now I just want what's best for me)

Try some passion as long as you are sure you will have not regrets the next day! I don't have regrets but I do feel still emotionally sad... I'm giving it my best shot and if it doesn't work out then at least I can live with the fact that I have tried EVERYTHING