Julie,

Tell him how you feel about discussing that subject. A letter is great. If you are that uncomfortable talking about it, being forced to talk about it more and to tell someone else about it probably isn't going to help at this point.

It sounds like it's a big issue and it probably does affect the rest of your treatment since you have such strong feelings about it, but making you uncomfortable over it just isn't going to help. Sometimes it can be very hard for counselors and therapists to maintain a nonjudgmental attitude, but showing a strong reaction to something that you are so uncomfortable about already really isn't helpful.

Unless, of course, this issue involves the potential for harm to you or someone else - then he's obligated to deal with it and/or report it.

In any case, let your therapist know how you feel about what he did. Maybe he doesn't know how much of a problem it is for you to talk about that particular issue.

Wishing You Well,
Wendy

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