Interesting topic! This is my first go-round with therapy, and I have struggled/still sometimes struggle with the "is it a good fit?" theme. I do agree that there is no way for clients to really understand if they have a good fit with their T, or how important that relationship is.

What I am having trouble with-is how do you REALLY know, when your feelings towards the T fall in the gray area? She has never said or done anything to really upset me, she has left me feeling slightly better on occasion...but its been two years and I still get nervous and its like pulling teeth to get me to open up.

Is this because I don't feel comfortable with her/we don't mesh? Is it because I am afraid to trust, no matter who it would be? Is it neccesarily bad that it is so hard for me? That if I keep working at it, I will (hopefully) be able to open up? I sometimes think if I had a T like my GP who is the sweetest lady in the world--would I open up easier/faster? Not that my T isn't kind, she's just very neutral. Then I think would a T act like my GP? Be so open and sweet and caring? Probably.

See what my brain does?! My T has mentioned that maybe I would be less anxious seeing someone else, but I keep saying "no, I want to keep at it." I don't know why-i hoope it isn't just fear of starting all over. I also hope that its just hard because I just am afraid to be vulnerable, and that would be difficult with anyone...maybe less so with someone more "up front" with their caring. But maybe I will feel a greater sense of satisfactuion and self by keep trying. I don't know.