Wonderingmary, you seem to have a good vision of what you want in a T. Maybe you could continue to work on your assertiveness in asking and molding your therapy into what best meets your needs. I have only had one T so I don't know what the system is like. However my T does not seem to be a one-size-fits-all kind of T. Our relationship was very rocky in the beginning. In hindsight I think that was because my T had few expectations and waited for me to figure out what I wanted/needed her to do and provide. Although my T has been practicing a long time...I think she has learned a lot from working with me and seeing if she could accomidate and to therapy using the chaotic13 approach. LOL

Maybe... Part of your therapy is teaching your T about a better way to "do" your therapy.