this really resonated with me. I told my T about a certain part of my life that is out of control- she may have known it but not how much till now - and that I had an idea that I might work on it.

She said, because it bothers your DH, or because it bothers you?
I said, I guess more because it bothers him - but it never used to bother me at all, until I started seeing you.

The silence was deafening. Neither one of us looked at the other, or moved, or breathed, you could have counted to ten. I think I finally found evidence of progress. Five seconds before that I would have probably said there was none.

You are brave, Thimble, you have good help, and you are doing well. Hang in there.