Well i always thought i'd made it clear to my T that i cut, but obviously i didn't because she found out via family and reacted really shocked and overly concerned and spouted contracts and this that and the other. I wasn't best pleased with this reaction since i believe i was honest with her, just wasn't graphic in any way and didn't mention it every single session. Now, she asks about it as and when it comes up but i think she's dropped the whole contract malarky because to be honest i didn't truly understand it and i never really do it to hurt myself, i do it to stay in control and that can be helpful sometimes (for me). She asks about it at times but only says she is concerned and then leaves it at that. I don't think she thinks she can change my feelings (just like your t) but she knows that the end goal is to for me to stop and have other coping mechanisms. She has never said to me that i'll get tired of feeling this bad, that is a truly horrific and invalidating thing to say, as if we choose it (so to speak)!! I think it is a bit much to say you cut both for you and for him....my therapist thought, at first, that i did it for the pain, but i explained i didn't - perhaps you should do the same. Educate your therapist about why you cut. And btw isn't it okay to cut for attention (not saying this is why you do it btw)? It really gets to me this whole 'oh so and so is just doing it for attention' - of course we are, we're in pain, anyone else in our situation would do the same thing. Why is attention such a bad, bad thing?! Totally frustrates and confuses me.