Anotherdaydown, i got on facebook a week ago and impulsively wrote some stuff when i was manic. Fortunately i asked my sisters for help. They were my angels and helped me through the damage control process with nothing but caring and concern and of course the delete button. I was lucky i hit in time. I talked to my t about facebook and the like. Her response was dead on. She pretty much said since we can communicate so quickly, there is more of an opportunity to be impulsive. Take care when using computers. As far as when he comes home, what if you took your son to see his father come home regardless of your feelings? Your husband is a lot of things but if you can look at him as someone comming back alive from a war zone. After that you can go from there.