My husband and I were married 10 years ago and have a 10-yr-old daughter together. After I caught him smoking pot I threatened to leave him and take our daughter with me. He promised to quit but has since then started back up again. The problem for me is not so much the smoking but his dysfunctional behaviors. He refuses to address his issues no matter what I've tried and has dropped out of counseling more than twice. He is verbally abusive, financially irresponsible, impulsive, arrogant, and a compulsive liar and procrastinator. I inadvertently lost all my power in this marriage and am financially strapped. I have tried relentlessly to get a full-time job, but it has not happened. I am a substitute teacher who earns less than 20,000 a year and no benefits. I am happy with the hours I work because I can be home to cook dinner and do homework with my daughter. What I am waiting for is a miracle. In the meantime, may I please get some suggestions; the more the merrier.