I don't know if this is relevant or not, but I spent about 6 years with my T not really wanting to get better. I just wanted to be with her more than wanting to do anything to change. Thinking back on it, she let me do that for all of those years before telling me that it wasn't ethical for me to keep seeing her if I wasn't progressing and just wanted to feel good with her. But I needed those 6 years to reach a point where I did want to grow up and become independent from her. It wasn't wasted time. I wasn't ready before then.