dear missing mark , I have been/know how you feel.I have been seperated from my husband almost 4 years now so I am ahead of you.He walked out a few days after Christmas after a very bad argument with my 20 year old son and said that was the reason.He saidx he still loved me cared for me etc but could not live in under this roof anymore he felt"unwelcomed"this was the first he mentioned this at the same time my 19 year old son had started chemo for cancer talk about my world falling apart.
Well I kept going to our other home where he moved into for over 2 years every weekend we still had chemistry and passion but he still held to his stance and then did say after the 2 year mark our anniversery he would try a week back but not to get my hopes up etc. it was going well then out of the blue he got a puppy which would actually make it so he couldn't spend time at the house and tie him to the other house again I was blindsided and baffled ???well about 6 months or so later (so almost 3 years now he says he isn't in love with me anymore and has been trying to remember and its bothering him why !!!and we should stop making love and move on etc..and stop communicating ...then probably 4 months later he meets someone online she becomes his girlfriend and moves in a few months ago they have been together a little over a year now ...mind you we did start talking here and there nothing more have seen each other for stupid things like insurance things or whatever ,and no mention of divorce by him ...So I am at a loss he says we will never be together again don't get my hopes up,yet makes no move to end things totally (divorce,legal seperation etc..)so I am still in love unable to move on and wonder where his head is at ? And sure as hell wouldn't want to be his live in girlfriend with the (wife) still out here .
So missing marc being ahead of you and doing the begging,bargaining,trying to get him to see how good things were we never argued,cheated on each other,had alot in common,great sexual chemistry etc.I am still at a loss and hoping and deep down think he will return even though his lips and actions are confusing and contadicting....

I'd say GET OUT <DON"T CALL>DON"T EMAIL<BREAK ALL TIES <this coming from someone still doing it still in pain that worsens and worsens by continuing to hope and think he must still feel something if I only had the strength to tell him FU basically which I don't (to scared to) and I am 45 years old .I keep wasting years not days ,weeks,or months anymore YEARS>>>>>>>>>>>