I've always felt very uneasy around people who are touchy-feely, emotive types, but I could never say why. After two years with T, WHAM! I realized that it's a reaction to their unpredictability; up to age 4 my father was at home, emotionally unstable and often violent. Today, people who seem far more influenced by emotions than reason really make me anxious. But now I know why, and to me it is worth a lot.

Also, I've learned that feeling hurt by someone is a vulnerable position and that I prefer to be angry, because it gives me an illusion of control, But I know now that my feelings really are of hurt; the anger is on top of that, a shield against pain, if you will, although not a good one.

This is some of what came to me when I read, "learning to recognize your feelings".