Yes I do have a great husband.
He helped me finish highschool that I so dreaded because I did not fit in.

He told me I had to finish school before I could marry and so I did in June of 1977 after 14 dreadfull years of school.

Now he wished I would of went on to college a dear teacher offered me the chance to go and I turned it down.

I love my husband so much.

We can now talk about almost any thing. I have not told him I am on this group and it still scares me a bit to be on it.

Afraid of hidden wolfs and storys you hear about people who lerk in some of these groups.

When I was in my late teens I had an idea of how I was suppose to act around men. I watched my many Aunts how they ajusted their bra straps when they went to the ladys room to pull them selves up to Iook inviting.

I would cram in sport infomation to share conversation with men when I hated sports.

I watched Gone With The Wind often and became good at flattery and flirting.

I had 4 dates for my senoir prom and did except a one because of lack of money for the clothes to wear.
I would say to boys that I would never consider even dating that I was flattered but I was engaged to John.

I grew very fond of men in my life my uncles loved me. My dad was proud to be seen with me.

Boys liked me alot. I was very cute and pretty and petite and
happy.
I knew a smile could go a long way.

After I was married one night we got home from being out and I was not smiling and my husband said to me how come you smiled at every one and we come home and you are not smiling any more at me.

I really thought about that for a long time and changed.

When I married I felt it my dutie to pay attention only to my husband and not even talk to boys who liked me before because I was afraid to make my new young husband jealous.

Last fall I seen the one boy after 24 years and we gave each other big bear hugs infront of my husband and it was OK but when I seen him shortly after I married I didn't hardly talk to him.

I quit flirting all together.

Now as I become my own person. I am finding I like to talk to men more often than women.

I do not have the body and looks I had as a young married women. So I do not feel as threatened by my own self.

But I still have some thing that is attactive I still get hit on.

I find that I like some of my girl friends husbands better than my girl friends and I am in a very good marriage not looking for any thing but conversation of a clean manner .

Afew laughes.

I was explaining this too my husband lately how one good friend does not allow her husband to even talk with me very often on the phone.
My husband knows this guy and I have a sister\brother type relationship going on and its Ok with him but he was shocked to find out that his wife takes the phone and rarely allows me to talk with him any more.

My male friend told me recently when I called and talked with his wife that he wondered why I have not called for awhile and I said I have been talking with your wife and he said she did not tell me.
And he told me he asked her to call me recently and she drew up her nose at his suggestion.
This women is tiny and blond.
She has three young sons to him one a tottler and she worked hard to get her figure back.
She always wears her make up and he is in love with her.

I could never and would never want to fill her place.

I talked to him recently my husband incouraged me to call him and of course I only had a breif conversation with him before his wife took the phone but he told me he enjoyed talking to him. That I made his day.
I know what I have it is a sense of humor that he likes and many people like.

I got in big trouble with my brother in-law when we last seen his kids .
Little boys have often taken a shine to me and his child was 8 years old and he said very loudly you are prettier than my mom and it made my brother in-law angry at his child for saying it infront of his mom.

I am funny to be around I laugh at my own self.

I found a young man I like to talk to he is my baby brothers age and reminds me of my baby brother 11 years younger than I.

My brother was like my baby and he married a women who looks very much like me but larger boned.

The thing is this guy has had bad times with women and his wife he's been in Desert Storm like my brother has and he is so down to earth.
Low paying job first met him in the Video store were he was working 11 years ago and now in a book store. I seen in out shopping in grocery store.
I like to talk to him he is respectfull of me and does not flirt and we talk about books and just easy stuff.

He never comes on to me.
He keeps him self in check.
Recently we were talking about how women can treat others and he told me he has seen many nasty women treat others cruely and has seen how women recreate them selves to please others
.
He told me he works with a women who talks at a normal pitch and when she answers the phone her voice becomes sweet and soft and he has asked her why she does that and she does not realize she does it.

He told me about women in the East when he was in the war how they wore shrouds and went bare foot.
He laughed when I told him some days I wish I had that choice to wear a shroud and go bare foot.

My husband knows this kid but the thing is I feel ashamed to have a man friend besides my husband or a friend of his or family .
I feel ashamed to enjoy running into and talking to.

I could never have lunch with him as I would a girl friend.
Or call him on the phone or invite in over for a meal with my husband and I .
If I were seen with him by people I knew , neighbors and other women they would gossip and try to make some thing out of it.

I checked my own emointions over this freindship and it is very simple he is just a nice kid who reminds me of family and he respects me.

Once I had a male friend of Johns go tell my husband that he see's my car is at the exercise gym for men and women.
My husband bought me the membership to the gym.

So there are still rules to follow in small towns for married women and if I want to be excepted they have to be followed.

Got stuff to do. Morning8glory